We are a species that’s so obsessed with giving the right terms and classifications to everything and everyone. And yet, as nature so often does, exceptions abound.
Carl Jung, the famed psychoanalyst who is credited for sowing the seeds to the most commonly used personality type indicators, once said this of his typology:
“Every individual is an exception to the rule”
We let ourselves be socially programmed to believe we can only build genuine relationships with other human beings, and that there needs to be certain criteria to be fulfilled if it is to even be considered one.
But how about the care and concern you feel for a plant that you’re taking care of? Or a beloved pet at home? Or even the love that you feel for the things you created – a piece of art, a daily use item, even a letter? Or human relationships that don’t exactly fill all the prescribed columns?
Lately, I’ve been questioning so many things in my life. The genuineness of relationships, the fragility of it, everything.
There were so many exceptions, to popular thought and to mine own both.
Friendships that I thought would last for long fell apart. Those I paid little attention to, ended up being dear to me. What another said was toxic bloomed into a beautiful exchange of ideas.
And the strangest thing?
None of this surprised me.
As if I already knew, somewhere that this was all bound to happen. I feel there’s a superior intelligence residing right inside us that can notice a great many things before they happen.
We call it so many different names, and yet the basic idea remains the same. Perhaps it’s a yet-undiscovered part of our brain, or maybe just a subtler power – I don’t know.
But it’s there.
It creates and guides our internal ecosystems, and the external environments mirror this creation of ours.
Recently, I’ve been trying to remain mindful and observant. I stumbled across the quote on my social media feed, and I knew it was an answer to my queries to this intelligence.
There have been times when I often felt alone and misunderstood, but that just made me realize how important it was for me to provide care and companionship to those around me who might be feeling the same thing.
And only last day I got a lesson – that it was not wise nor fair to expect anything in return when you do provide such to another.
I was in a dark place when the incident took place, but now I know why.
Relationships don’t necessarily have to be with other people, though you can learn from them in life.
When you’re alone, turn your gaze inwards. Your intelligence needs time alone with you.
When you’re feeling lost, take a deep breath and listen. Your intelligence is speaking to you.
And when you look around you, you can see so much that is ready to help you reach where you want to be.
If someone tells you you have to be something, and it just doesn’t resonate with any part of you, do respect their time and words but know that you are the exception. Perhaps their solution worked for a hundred others, but you’re not those hundred others, so you may have to find a different path.
Beautiful realizations always happen out of the blue after all, when you least expect it.