Of course, there’s nothing wrong with looking at a person and thinking: That’s who I want to be.
Only, it should stop with the thought, and you should become much better than that set point, that target.
Whenever someone asked me who my role model was, I remember struggling with myself for an answer. The truth was, there was truly no one I wanted to emulate.
I wasn’t always like that, though.
I used to have heroes – either from my personal life, or some public figure. But later on, as I watched a few of them fall from grace, I started to rethink my decision. Not that I hated them for their flaws- we’re all only human.
But why should I believe they’re different from me, that they’re on a pedestal that I can only copy, and never authentically build for myself? And worse, why get my heart broken by placing them on that pedestal in the first place when they were just as flawed as everyone else? Surely that’s a great injustice to them because they too might wish to make mistakes and learn from them, just like the rest of us.
We should learn from everybody around us, because every single person is a coach, a teacher, in their own right. Then again, there are incredible human beings who put such effort into their goals that they are almost super-human, and we ought to admire and observe them.
That’s it. Observe them.
What is the quality that makes them different? Is it their unshakeable faith in their abilities, or their unconditional acceptance of who they are?
There may be much to consider and learn, and the lessons each person has to teach is different. How can we listen to everyone if we’re just fanatically focussed on one person alone?
We all wish to be someone else, at some point.
We’re wonderful individuals in our own right, a unique specimen. What those incredible people did does not cease to be incredible, but what they’ve done is already done.
Why not leave a signature that’s entirely yours, a mark of the uniqueness that permeates your entire being?
Admire them, observe them, get advice from them if need be. But don’t copy them because, in the end, we all have a heart that is completely our own, that might dream of something entirely different.
Only we can conquer what our heart dreams, and partake of the sweetness of originality as a consequence.