The word anticipation reminds me of fear.

That’s because whenever I was, or thought I would be in a situation where I’d be forced to face Β my fears, I always anticipated being afraid even before I was actually in said circumstances.

Being alone in a dark room is one of my most crippling (and irrational) fears. I always tried to avoid this situation by making sure I had a room mate with me. That was easy, because our hostel accommodates three people in a room, and I usually had at least one another person to keep me company.

But this semester, I got allotted to a room for two, and when my room mate disappeared for three days at a stretch, I knew I had to put up with the situation. I could have asked for some other class mate to move into my room for that duration, but I decided I’d had enough. It couldn’t be that bad, I told myself.

And so it began!

Long story short, I did survive those three nights and managed undisturbed sleep. My vivid imagination painted scary pictures every time I switched off the lights, but it failed to have effect on me because of two reasons:

  1. I’d understood that they were the product of some primal fear, and hence imaginings of a mind that is intent upon survival.
  2. I was dead tired. I’d worked myself mentally and physically that week, so when I plopped into bed and closed my eyes I just wanted to sleep.

It is an idle mind that has the resources to instill fear, because it is free to do so. Most, if not all of our fears are a product of our own minds.

Else, why do these fears intensify right after I watch a horror movie?

Understand fear. Understand what causes it, for it’s at the root we have to strike if we’ve to get rid of anything.

Once you’ve done your understanding, find a rational explanation that you can use to reassure yourself whenever this fear crops up. This takes practice. Whenever the situation arises, ready yourself for it, because if you don’t you’ll just be a slave to that fear forever. Take away that power from your fear, and you conquer it.

Then you rule yourself, just as you always should.



15 thoughts on “Understand. Conquer. Rule.

  1. Hi, I found you on Pormote yourself Mondays. I am new to the site, and am delighted to find your post. Nice to meet you πŸ™‚

    I am so pleased you managed to work through your fears. This is a wonderful post for people who have the same fear. I can also relate–whenever I am alone in the house, I barricade the bedroom door, and sleep with the cat on the bed. I know if she awakes, there is something to be worried about, otherwise all is good.

    You write beautifully, with a lens to you as a person; there is nothing more wonderful as a reader than to feel you are connecting with the person behind the words. Thank you for sharing this, it cannot have been easy. a lovely post.

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    1. Welcome to the blogging community, and I’m so happy I got to meet you! I hope you’re enjoying it here.
      Truly, fears can be quite suppressing, but then again it only does that as long as we let them. πŸ™‚
      Thank you so much for your kind words, for this very thoughtful comment – it’s a delight for the writer when such appreciation is received. πŸ˜€

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      1. I have actually been blogging about 4 months, but I am new to finding Promote Yourself Mondays. It has been hard to find ways to meet new bloggers since community post disappeared.

        Yes, you are right, we need to learn to control the fears and contain them. Fear stops you enjoying life and gaining new experiences. I think your post will relate to a lot of people!

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      2. Always a pleasure. There is another site called Swimmers Week hosted by Novus Lectio, she does a similar thing on Mondays at noon. She also does prompts which is lovely of her!

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  2. firstly i think you are very brave to share this. my favourite line and one that had the most impact on me
    “It is an idle mind that has the resources to instill fear, because it is free to do so. Most, if not all of our fears are a product of our own minds.” that you recognise it is the first step to controlling the fear. a very good post.

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    1. You’re really kind, and thanks. I’m glad you could find something from it that could resonate. πŸ™‚ Really glad that you could find the time to read and let me know your thoughts! Even gladder that I got to find your blog in the process. I love your style and the content of your posts. πŸ™‚ Thanks again!

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      1. yes i got lots from it and appreciate your writing strength. HAHA you found me, how sweet your words are to me, thank you, thank you! hope we continue on this lovely blogging journey sharing and learning from each other.

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